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Previous Entry Question #1 Dec. 31st, 2003 @ 02:48 am Next Entry
Alright, well I am in a situation:

There are some friends I rarely see and that I enjoy spending time with and I was invited to hang with them new years. They live a few hours away and the last time I saw them was last new years.

There is also this girl that I met at a show and went on one date with and we were going to hang out here. I really wouldnt want to take her with me to my friends a few hours away because I'd have to leave before she'd be here. When we first met she seemed cool but during our date she hardly talked and it was kinda boring.

So:

Do I go hang with my long time friends that I do not get to see?

or

The girl I had one date with?
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From:mandolin64
Date:December 31st, 2003 08:13 am (UTC)
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friends
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From:creactivity
Date:December 31st, 2003 08:18 am (UTC)
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So you already made plans with the girl to hang out there?
From:cloveking
Date:December 31st, 2003 12:30 pm (UTC)
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Yeah... that was after we met but before the date. Up about a week before the date our communication pretty much stopped and was reduced to "How are you doing" "What are your plans?" "Want to hang out?"

Not very entertaining
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From:pensivechild
Date:December 31st, 2003 08:31 am (UTC)
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go with the sure thing...you know that you have fun with your friends, but it sounds like you are skeptical about the girl.

1. so if you can break the date guilt free, go with your friends.

2. If breaking the date will make you feel guilty, go on the date. (I say this only because guilt will put a damper on your "good time")
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From:dougiedoug
Date:December 31st, 2003 12:12 pm (UTC)
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Friends
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From:aliciarenee80
Date:December 31st, 2003 01:21 pm (UTC)
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I say go with the friends.
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From:smokingredmoon
Date:December 31st, 2003 02:35 pm (UTC)
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friends..you haven't seen them in awhile.. you can always chill with that girl another time.
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From:bleppo
Date:December 31st, 2003 02:50 pm (UTC)
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My vote's for friends....
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From:extravagant
Date:December 31st, 2003 02:56 pm (UTC)
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"Bro's before ho's."
Go out with your friends.
<3Elle.
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From:penguin001
Date:December 31st, 2003 02:59 pm (UTC)
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I'd say friends. Sure, the girl may take a bit to open up, and thus why she seemed quiet and boring, but New Year's is not the time to see if she'll open up more on the 2nd date. You should be having fun.

That's of course assuming you can canceling the date won't put a damper on you having fun with your friends.
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From:vivapink
Date:December 31st, 2003 03:44 pm (UTC)
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friends.

"Something suddenly came up."
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From:metri8
Date:December 31st, 2003 04:15 pm (UTC)
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If the girl doesn't have any back up plans wouldn't you be leaving her high and dry? Find out what she has planned -- if it was going to be just the two of you you should keep the date. Go out and do something with the girl, at least you'll be out having fun and maybe she'll open up.
From:cloveking
Date:December 31st, 2003 04:28 pm (UTC)
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Well I called and left a message on her cell phone to see what was up. She has yet to call me. See she is out of town right now and is suppose to return sometime today yet I do not know when. If she does not call or does not get back in time then she would be leaving me high and dry. Also, I forgot to mention that it took three tries to hang out with her that one night. The first night I was getting into town and called her when she should have been done christmas shopping. Cell phone was dead. The next time she was going to come over at night but after taking her shower realized that she needed to be back at a certain time and decided not to come. So she has canceled on me twice already when I waited around. It would not be hard for her to get together back up plans cause of her friends she could hang out with.
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From:metri8
Date:December 31st, 2003 04:49 pm (UTC)
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Well in light of those facts I'd say hang out w/ the friends (especially since you haven't been able to confirm plans and she has a history of cancelling).
From:cloveking
Date:December 31st, 2003 04:36 pm (UTC)
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I just spoke with another friend of mine that I hardly get to see. Last time I saw him was in July when he returned from Iraq. I'm definately going. As one reader commented "Bro's before Ho's"
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From:hotlips50219
Date:December 31st, 2003 04:48 pm (UTC)
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Definitly friends
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From:aprillillian
Date:December 31st, 2003 08:46 pm (UTC)
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freinds, give her directions and if she shows, she shows, if not oh well....
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From:tinkerkels
Date:December 31st, 2003 10:04 pm (UTC)
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hang with friends... they last longer... and you would have more fun!
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From:infrogpajamas
Date:December 31st, 2003 10:43 pm (UTC)
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friends. and ditch the girl. if she's cancelled on you before, and you just met her, you aren't at the top of her priority list anyways. find a new girl. one you can count on. :)
From:cloveking
Date:December 31st, 2003 11:15 pm (UTC)
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You know what...you are perfectly right.
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From:johannah_rose
Date:January 1st, 2004 11:29 am (UTC)
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She could be shy, like good in a group but awkward alone with someone. That would be one explanation for the date. Has she contacted you since said date (assuming she has contact info)? If so, try and see her.

Another idea, would be simply to see your friends tonight. Love may come and love may go but they've been around through it. Call her, email her, IM her whatever. Get to know her and see if you click before potentially wasting time on her that you could have seen friends. Both she and your friends will respect you more for that.
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